One key area to being successful is having strong, long lasting relationships. Whether romantic, family, friend, or business - relationships magnify our experiences by providing us the opportunity to share ourselves with others. If you have deep, rich, and rewarding relationships, chances are you will have a rewarding life. Here are a couple of things that you can do to ensure you master this part of your life:
1. Get clear about what you want
The first key to building strong relationships is to get clear about what it is that you want. Take some time to make a list of what it is that you are looking for in your relationships. What types of qualities does this person have? How would you describe this person? What do they do? What do they look like?
2. Get clear about what you don't want
The second key step is to identify what you don't want from your relationships. This one should be fairly easy. Whether it is a business relationship, a friendship, or a romantic relationship, think back to all those nightmare issues you have had in the past. What do you want to make sure is excluded from your relationships?
3. Answer the question, "Who do I need to be as a person to attract this type of person into my life?"
Now that you are clear about what you want, you need to do some work on yourself. Be honest with yourself, and assess where you are right now. Who do you need to be to attract the types of clients that you want to work with? How about that special partner? By identifying who you need to become, and comparing that to who you are now, you create a list of areas to work on to improve yourself and make yourself more attractive to others!
4. Put yourself in a position to attract what you want
Now that you are clear about what you want, you need to put yourself in a position to interact with these types of people. For example, if you want to attract more small business clients, you might join a chamber of commerce. If you want to attract an attractive, athletic woman, you might join a gym or sports club.
5. Take action!
All the knowledge in the world will not help you unless you put it into action. Once you are clear about what you want from your relationships, take action to attract who you want in your life, and improve your existing relationships.
Remember, oftentimes when you are clear about what you want, work on improving yourself, and ask for what it is you are looking for, you very often get it!
Tom Kelly is a Professional Business Coach that specializes in working with small business owners, entrepreneurs, and salespeople. He can be reached at (630) 964-0112, or at www.businesscoachchicago.com.
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